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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • Do you want to be a single parent or not? How will this affect your life in say ten years? Fifteen ? You will still be supporting this kid in twenty years time, too. I would think of that. Are you one hundred percent you will never become resentful or bitter with this child because you need to sacrifice your lifestyle to take care of them? Your time? Your money? An unplanned pregnancy already is deserving of that question, and with a single parenthood unplanned pregnancy you better be absolutely sure of what you’re getting into. It’s not the money, it’s the dedication.

    Are you considering getting into another transactional relationship after this one? A child might make things more complicated too. A lot of men want a lady to keep them company, but not all are happy with a child tagging along.

    I’m finding it hard to believe someone would be so ambivalent about completely changing their life like that. You say you would want the best for the child. Can someone have a great life without one of their parents? Sure, but whoever is left taking care of them must be absolutely devoted. You can’t backtrack.







  • I once saw heard a 4wD crash right on the neighbors’ solid brick wall, right across the street. The cops were chasing the car, which was stolen, and arrested the driver. My 16y/o chicken self got so scared with all the noise that I didn’t dare to peek through the window for a good ten minutes. When I finally did, I thought the hole in the wall looked surreal. The impact also damaged the garage door. I can’t even begin to imagine the insurance shitshow that must have been.



  • Not sure if this applies to you but maybe you have heard a phrase about you that doesn’t make sense fully. In my case, it was “you’re intimidating” and that took me a long long time to understand because as a woman who has a lot of insecurities and can’t physically fight this is absolutely ridiculous. Then one day I was watching some relationship guru video clip and the guy said “if you’re told you’re intimidating and can’t make sense of it, it means you are hard to impress”. That clicked. At least, within dating contexts. I don’t know. I think most of the honest feedback I’ve gotten from potential dates, from boyfriends, from family members (though that required always a difficult argument beforehand and getting feedback was never the goal) and also from teachers who get fed up with your bullshit occasionally. It’s never going to come to you from a comfortable source, but you shouldn’t be asking your enemies either, because they’ll lie too.