• BaraCoded@literature.cafe
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    20 days ago

    Man, you can’t just ignore how porn molds the way people see others and what they expect of them, be it men, women or trans people

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      20 days ago

      I don’t know, I’m very sex-positive and I enjoy porn. Sometimes I even learn new things I like from it. I don’t think for a minute that it’s real and I would not apply it to vanilla people (my more kinky friends however yes if I know they’re into something).

      I don’t really think my stepsister will get stuck in the washing machine. Does it form sexual behaviour and practices? Probably yes. I’m sure a lot of people try squirting now, which was popularised in porn. Is that bad? No, I don’t think so at all. Why would it be? Sex knows fashions just like other human behaviour.

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        19 days ago

        The really crazy one is oral sex. It’s become so accepted and ubiquitous that if you don’t like it, you’re the weird one. But if you stop to think about it, it’s clearly a kink.

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          19 days ago

          Yes I know that oral was not practiced a lot in the past within marriages in particular (though during the war in brothels I’m sure it was). But why do you think it’s particularly kinky?

          I agree in terms of deep throating, that’s a bit of a kink and I personally don’t like doing it (even as the one being deep throated). That was popularized by its namesake movie I think.

          But normal oral how is that so kinky? I personally love it, it’s a lot more gentle than regular sex. And it tastes so good 🤭 I even love doing that for hours (both ways) and skipping the penetration part altogether. 😋 But oral kinda feels like it’s meant to be done.

          It’s not really a modern thing as such either. The kama sutra features a ton of it, including gay and lesbian versions.

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            19 days ago

            You’re kinda proving my point. The reason why you don’t see it as kinky is because it’s so common. If it wasn’t common and normalized, people would see it as a kink. I’m kink-positive; I don’t have a problem with that. What I find interesting is how accepted and ubiquitous this one kink has become, and I think we have porn to thank for that.

            It’s not really a modern thing as such either. The kama sutra features a ton of it, including gay and lesbian versions.

            Well, that isn’t really surprising. I think you would have a really hard… er, difficult time finding a new kink. People have been horny for as long as there have been people, and every imaginable configuration has been tried out thousands of years ago. Except for vibrators or any of the other modern sex toys? Because those didn’t exist before.

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              18 days ago

              Hmm how do you define kinks then?

              I really think oral sex is so normal it’s never really been a kink except in the strictest communities.

              I agree kinks don’t have to be ‘new’ to be a kink, but I was referring to the link to porn. While it has existed for longer, it’s only really been accessible to everyone for a century or so.