Well my ex-wife, whom I still love, we broke up because she didn’t want kids, and my fence-sitting ass got on the other side of marriage and immediately wanted more of her to love, in the form of a tiny version of us.
A part of me wants to suggest that we get back together, work through our crap, and then invite another woman into our marriage, one that would like children. Then we can raise a family while Wife 1 helps as much or as little as she wants.
Im in a happy monogamous marriage, but I’ve always seen the logic in this and completely agree. Marriage and coupling really hasn’t evolved with changes in society. A lot of peoples criticism of polygamy and polyamory feels mostly like insecurity to me. The cases I’ve seen have often been healthy situations. The cases were it isn’t healthy often has to do with already existing power dynamics (religion) or confirmation bias.
I think that’s kind of the problem.
you want to marry “the right one” because you plan on being with them forever, alone together.
whereas if you had more than one person to rely on for “forever”, you might be more open to choices.
Well my ex-wife, whom I still love, we broke up because she didn’t want kids, and my fence-sitting ass got on the other side of marriage and immediately wanted more of her to love, in the form of a tiny version of us.
A part of me wants to suggest that we get back together, work through our crap, and then invite another woman into our marriage, one that would like children. Then we can raise a family while Wife 1 helps as much or as little as she wants.
but that just doesn’t seem feasible.
never hurt to talk about it seriously. the important thing to not gloss over is the trust and boundaries everyone must have in the relationship.
the one thing that you’ll need going into polyamorus relationships is good communication.
Im in a happy monogamous marriage, but I’ve always seen the logic in this and completely agree. Marriage and coupling really hasn’t evolved with changes in society. A lot of peoples criticism of polygamy and polyamory feels mostly like insecurity to me. The cases I’ve seen have often been healthy situations. The cases were it isn’t healthy often has to do with already existing power dynamics (religion) or confirmation bias.