Bonus points if someone warned you and you went ahead anyway.

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      Heck yes. You do you!

      Way too many people tried to tell me what’s supposedly good for me. But in the end the best decision I made was to stop listening

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    If you feel like you are walking on eggshells every day with your partner you are at best with the wrong person. More likely you are being abused. No, they will not improve. You can try any number of strategies for conflict resolution but the horrors will persist.

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    That just because someone treats you better than you’ve ever been treated before, does NOT mean that they are treating you WELL.

    If you were bullied or abused as a kid, do some actual reading about what’s normal and healthy, and get out of a situation immediately if there are any even slightly concerning signs. No second chances, no guilt, no self blame, just go.

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      I learned this for work, too.

      Added to that: your company will let you go without warning. If they’ve proved this, then they deserve nothing better. Since then I have ab-sol-ute-ly no qualms about bailing without warning.

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        Right‽

        2 jobs ago, I left with essentially 3 days warning because I was fucking miserable (this gave me a week off between jobs).

        The last job I left, I negotiated a 3 week gap, so I’d be able to give a two-week notice AND take a week off because I genuinely liked the job and the people I was working with, but I fell into an opportunity too good to pass up.

        A super important life lesson is to always put yourself and your mental health before the company.

        I got some life advice somewhere, I don’t remember where, that was essentially: Don’t craft a well-thought-out argument against somebody that John Brown would have shot AND never give two weeks notice to a company that makes you miserable and it has been life changing.

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          Don’t craft a well-thought-out argument against somebody that John Brown would have shot AND never give two weeks notice to a company that makes you miserable and it has been life changing.

          That is amazing advice, and I will try and fail to put the first to good use here on lemmy with these fucking trolls.

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    The advice of wearing less when it’s hot out is not for everyone. I just park my coat on the ac and it’ll stay cold on my trip.

    bonus: no need for sunscreen on my arms

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    Never stick your dick in crazy. The sex is great but it’s absolutely not worth the drama. That being said … it was a fun lesson to learn!

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    When you close a bank account, make sure you print out all of your statements first. They’ll keep your records, but have no obligation to give you those records when you stop holding an account there.

    When I had to dispute a debt with a collector, I tried going to the bank and they wanted $8 per monthly statement. I knew I had made the payment but wasn’t sure when because it was years prior, and could easily have spent more on those statements than the debt was for. Luckily the debt originator found proof of payment before it went any further, but lesson learned.

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    Don’t go to a foreign country without travel insurance. I almost died and was threatened with arrest for being unable to pay the hospital bill.

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      I have travel insurance, but I had a near miss with a tooth infection I got right after I got back from the usa

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    If an ex calls you, out of the blue, for no readily apparent reason, it’s solely to take that knife they already jammed in your back and give it a few more good, hard, twists.

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      Got Gut Ain’t no knives in my back

      And anyone who doesn’t want to date me for being friends with exes will just have miss out

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    Don’t drink alcohol with a mood disorder, It might seem ok for a while, but it’s totally not.

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    You can explain anything in the world to me until you are blue in the face but until I ex0erience it first hand I won’t have any idea what your talking about. Just the way I retain info.