As a lemmy.today user myself (though not American), it’s cozy in there!

But the numbers are surprisingly low. It’s an instance that is run without donations though, only on the good will of its creator (who refuses donations citing sufficient income to keep it as a hobby project), so I imagine having it big could potentially become a strain.

Lemmy World mods doing something good for once.

No, US exceptionalism is turning every single general purpose community into US politics.

For the 4% of Earth’s population that does indeed live in the US, there could be local communities.

I’m sorry to hear what you have experienced. Male abuse victims are not only real and valid, they are more common than people normally think. Every time I see some bullshit like “always a man”, I lose my temper a bit.

And for as long as I can, I refuse to allow this echo chamber to exist. Unfortunately, the path of non-intervention does not seem to be helpful to me, as feminists just continue to be boiling in a circlejerk of fear and loathing.

I do not intervene when people speak of their actual negative experiences with certain people, I think it’s actively harmful, but when it comes to such general hate messages, this is something I will not tolerate - much like feminists themselves back in the day did not tolerate men being dismissive of them as nothing more than dumb housewives, for example. Because it shouldn’t be tolerated and breeds a skewed and dangerous worldview.

With that said, you do you, and with the experience and trauma you have faced, I 100% understand you not wanting to have anything with women you don’t already know. I hope you’ll have more positive examples around you, though, as most women, as I have experienced, still do not buy this misandric shit at least for the most part, and are not hostile.

I already do, and it’s great!

It’s just that this post evaded all my filters anyway thanks to phrasing :D

Luckily, I am not

Me: unsubbing every single politics community

Showerthoughts:

I see where you’re coming from, and not gonna debate it further.

Still, to me it looks this division is growing, and hostility is barely ever a good answer. There seemed to be more unity and more decisiveness to approach things together just a few years prior, and I’m not sure what ended it.

I tried to make it clear that women have a drastically different social experience. It is true, and it would be weird to debate it.

But we have to separate venting from finding solutions. My very point is that we often cannot practically address women’s issues without addressing men’s ones, and vice versa. Going one by one, you will quickly hit the wall, as men (or women, if we talk about men’s issues) just won’t be able to do what they’re asked for. And instead of accepting that and working together, people tend to assume that the reason the other side doesn’t change is because they act in bad faith. This is inherently imbalanced and unworkable.

I see where you’re coming from, and I agree for the most part (and I also don’t agree with people taking pitchforks on you), but the direction I take to “steer it away” is to look at it as something universal, which is simply more helpful to understand why it happens, not to tie attention to men’s issues specifically.

I believe we’ve come at the point where women and men issues are so intertwined, so much permeating each other that it’s no longer helpful to see them as separate issues to begin with. Sure, we have different experiences, but those very experiences come from the interaction of problems on both sides, and looking at them from one side is essentially screaming into the void and hoping it helps - and when it predictably doesn’t, this leads to people vilifying each other instead of exploring the reasons behind it.

Everyone has to familiarize themselves with the issues other sides face, and come from the side of compassion if they want to be part of an actual solution. That includes men, women and enbies, too.

YES!

As a person who is just genuinely against all discrimination, including discrimination of women and men, I never quite understood why is this divide so powerful.

We’ll do our best if we work together, not compete for attention. Women face real issues. Men face real issues. Many of them play out of each other, and solving one would help untangle the other.

All while people will seemingly rip you apart for saying we could work together.

No, I don’t want to play the tug of war or steal the attention from the problem of “your side”. I just see how those issues intertwine, and working with both is paramount if we actually want to solve them. Let’s do that instead of whatever mess has been created.

My point is that it is a universal issue, all while many people are trying very hard to represent it as women-specific.

When male voices are shushed both under their posts and under those focused on women, they don’t have much of a platform to speak out. And they need it, too.

If all sides have an opportunity to say things without being interrupted, there is no point in chiming in and saying the other side has it worse.

Honestly same thing happens when we talk about men.

Tons of women coming up, saying “women have it worse” and attempting to minimize the importance if men’s issues.

Let’s just listen to both sides for once, and make everyone heard. When everyone is given a platform to speak, there’s no need to interrupt each other.

Stack up on basic meds for when you catch cold. You’re likely to have it a lot, it’s kinda normal.

Also, if you’re gonna live in an area with central heating, make sure heaters in your home are fully operational and don’t need to have air removed. They should be hot all throughout their surface.

The games are good, but studios are often doing trashy moves.

Apex was one of the few top-tier online shooters that flawlessly worked on Linux out of the box. And now the dedicated Linux userbase is here, but the game is not, because apparently Respawn doesn’t care.

Apex was one of the titles that just worked, flawlessly. And I never faced anything that I could attribute to cheats over high skill.

Yes, there was some ALGS drama, but as a regular player, I never faced it.

UV sterilization has been used in medicine, industry and science since forever, and will be used long after nobody knows what COVID is.

As a microbiologist, I would greatly appreciate the affordable lamp that wouldn’t require me to leave the room when it’s sterilizing, and would also safely sterilize my skin before I conduct my work.

No, I just highlight that the research you provided doesn’t say what you want it to say. And I can’t really find many articles that confirm your notion.

You can call the country your home if you constantly live and/or were born there. Quite straightforward to me. Now, it would certainly be handy to learn the language and familiarize with the culture - which many Latvian Russians do - and it’s a correct turn to make Latvian courses mandatory - but suppressing Russian culture is a step too far, and something that should never be applied to anyone. Luckily, I’m not the only one thinking this way.

I do speak Ukrainian (мова, anyone?), although I must admit that since I’ve spent more time living here in Russia and not everyone even in Ukraine spoke Ukrainian, I do speak Russian better. But same is true for most Eastern Ukrainians anyway.

I don’t white-wash anything, I’m only saying hostility is not a viable option. You, along many others, try to push all blame on everyday Russians - and there could be a grain of truth to that, more could be done a decade ago to make sure this never happens - but what do you want now? What is the proposed course of action, exactly?

When those questions come up, I don’t know the answers. And I desperately wish to have one. One thing I do know is that getting hostile to Russians makes them hostile to you, which gradually shifts the idea of hostile Russians into a self-fulfilling prophecy, boosting Putin’s support. If you didn’t see it, one of the main patriotic tropes of Russia is that the world is full of enemies that hate Russians. Don’t make this true; people do not reason when they are despised, and they will not come to the conclusion that this is meant to stimulate them to do something. By trying to make Russians feel “consequences of their actions”, you really just feed directly into Putin’s propaganda machine and make Russians actually hate you.

No, that wasn’t me, and media can be accessed - at least via VPNs. Not gonna argue on that - and I still insist the support is not as broad as you imagine it to be, although sometimes it looks like some folks do everything in their power to make it true. Also, collective punishment over those in particular who support the war is never a good option at any ratio. This, by the way, has further alienated some of the opposition.

As I said, I do not have strong opinions on Russo-Ukrainian border. If Ukraine retakes Crimea and Donbass, then be it. If Russia captures them, okay. You think the reason I’m talking this is because I take the side of Russia, but I don’t take either side. If Ukraine ends up including Kursk (which was Russian pre-war), and Russia ends up including Luhansk (which was Ukrainian pre-war), and the peace is then brokered, whatever! I have zero loyalty to either country, and see the concept of a country to be imposed and alien, introducing conflicts over nothing that actually matters. I am, however, loyal to people, all people, and naturally sensitive to the struggles of those living on both sides of this very border. And on one side there are people not only suffering from rocket strikes, but also chased and beaten and pushed to go to their death (aka бусифікація), and on the other the country is turning into a war machine, feeding its young men into the grinder as well (aka могилизация). Stop that first, it’s an obvious priority task, isn’t it?

Now, does this approach of hostility make it any closer? If anything, it makes peace further away, it drives people further away. And it’s a big deal.

Maybe being nice to Russians didn’t help them stop Putin. But being hostile to Russians plays straight into Putin’s deck. It looks, however, like retribution for you is the goal in itself, not a measure to actually help anyone, on any side of the frontline.

With that said, I don’t think this is the kind of conversation worth having.

Russia, or Putin?

Fair on your part, I might’ve gone too far with my argument.

I was talking more about collaborative nature and what happens to it when the major open-surce project decides to gatekeep based on something highly arbitrary.

Linux is long past a simple hobby project, and it should be managed responsibly and with respect to the people that make this all happen.