You’re saying they’re looking for an excuse to shut down? Yeah honestly that’s what I figured, locking comments doesn’t make any sense otherwise.

After the call for admins, there was never an indication that the search wasn’t going well. Honestly, I would’ve put some time in (& I’m sure many others would’ve) if we’d known closure was imminent.

I mean, that’s basically the same as Arch.

Also I don’t think it’s worth the effort to teach my parents yet another messaging app, like signal.

My friend, just set up Signal on their phones, put it in place of the Telegram app and watch them not even notice anything changed.

Actually, we see the world in

This is such a good game. It might honestly be the best RTS that exists right now for online multiplayer.

Kerbal Space Program with mods
Cities:Skylines with mods
Age of Empires II: Definitive Edition
Dota 2 (I would be playing against and programming my own bots for it)
Trackmania with all current maps

True. What happens if you don’t do the other thing you’re avoiding right now?

You could also look at it like, you were conditioned to think that procrastinating/being unproductive is a bad thing. In the end, it could be that the things you do while procrastinating are the things you actually want, and the other stuff is just stuff that you think you’re supposed to do.

Of course, you know yourself best. But for me, once I started seeing the procrastination activities as the actual activities I want to do, I really just stopped doing most of the other stuff, and now I’m entirely unproductive, not doing anything much, and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

In the context of cold random approaches, women almost never do that. They don’t need to, because so many men are approaching them that they simply don’t have to do the work. Why would you risk rejection when you can just chill and be approached and thus get guaranteed interest? They just mostly pick out of the approaches they get. Gender roles might be theoretically dead, but practically, they’re very much alive.

One of the indirect ways is simply looking at you and looking friendly. That is them indirectly approaching you by showing you that you can approach them. How to make sure that is their intention is almost impossible because different people have different mannerisms and you don’t know what the person you’re looking at’s mannerisms are. They might just generally look at people and look friendly. For someone else, they might look but look bored and that’s their face for them wanting you to approach them. Or someone looking at you but quickly looking away when you look may be wanting you to approach (they were just embarrassed for staring), but they might also just think you look weird and that’s why they stared.

Approaching someone is not wrong, but it’s almost impossible to know if someone wants to be approached unless you approach them. It’s a paradox without a proper solution.

If you don’t initiate, you rely on others to give you what you want. If you approach yourself, you’re making what you want happen.

There is no “role that never needs to initiate”. Women have always been initiating, just less than men and maybe in a more indirect way. If women want something, they also make sure to try and get it.

In the end, the only thing you’re doing is not taking responsibility about your own happiness.

I see, that’s probably something only Americans would generally understand :D

What do the numbers mean?

Definitely not just you. But I was wondering why its boner was poking through its pants, even though it doesn’t have pants.

Setup an autocorrect phrase :D

The will of the people

I have 2C wireless and there is no Bluetooth to be found.

Dating requires incredible mental resilience. People are traumatized. People are selfish. People are rude. People are struggling. You will have to be able to deal with all kinds of unpleasant behaviors.

Most of the time, these unpleasant behavior have literally nothing to do with you, because people are just self-centered, the hero of their own story, not seeing others as truly equal, putting you into neat little boxes you don’t really fit in, or so many other reasons.

Even if you’re the most perfect person in the world, literally the most attractive, literally with perfect people skills, you’d miss out on at least 70% of connections just because of the random shortcomings of the other person or tertiary events. So you have to be able to deal with the fact that most interactions will not work out.

But for your and everyone’s psyche, every failure is a blow to the ego. So you will always get more blows to your ego than getting it stroked with a success. So it’s completely natural to feel like you do, that there’s an issue with you. But it’s just simply not true.

The only way to do this dating thing is do it exactly as much as you can handle another rejection. Optimally, you’ll be so comfortable by yourself that you literally don’t care about rejection, because you’re so comfortable already anyway, so why should a rejection matter? You’d just return to being comfortable alone.

I mean, meh. I never would’ve gotten together with people if I hadn’t just followed whatever they were comfortable with. I wrote for like 3 weeks about the deepest shit before I met up with someone, still together with that person. With others, I do exchange 3 messages and then meet up.

It’s more about genuinely being interested in the other person, getting them out of their “shell”, i.e. talking about what they truly want, by being truly open yourself. So in a sense what you say is true though, if you wanna meet, you should tell them you wanna meet.

I’ve also been successful re-establishing “ghosted” connections just by saying what I feel like “huh I thought we had a good connection here, apparently I misjudged that, anyway, hope you have a good one :)”

Of course there’ll be many where you’re just too different to build a connection, too incompatible, or just too much unrelated shit getting in the way. But there’s just no single script to follow. Except just saying what you want/feel, and truly listening.

The reason this is as public as it is is because an archive like this is more useful the more is archived. If you manage it in an entirely hidden way, you basically won’t get it accessible from the clearnet and are relegated to keep it on Tor or similar. And once you do that, a lot less people will use it and thus it’ll be a lot less useful.

Also, they are not only fighting for an archive to exist, they’re fighting for it being a societally acceptable thing to exist.