Trans woman - 10 years HRT

Intersectional feminist

Queer anarchist

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  • Sorry I revised my initial message, the regret rate does definitely vary based on study. It does tend to be much significantly lower than other more common procedures due to the efforts usually required to get access to it.

    Yeah there are definitely exploitative practices at some surgical clinics. I’m fortunate to live somewhere where the entire process is highly regulated, with lots of signed paperwork and a clearly established step by step process. I know that this varies a lot around the world.

    I’m sorry you feel that it eats away at you so heavily, thats awful. Phalloplasty is a surgery that I’m not admittedly super familiar with. And I think where you’re post-op vaginoplasty there are some differences there that would make the surgery unique in its own ways. I’m not sure what exists at the moment though. It would probably be hard to access, as you’ll have to find someone who would be willing to perform the operation at all. It might be worthwhile to contact some phallo surgeons and ask them what they think? Maybe try and reach out via an email or two, they might be able to give you some info.


  • Bottom surgery is unfortunately not reversible in any way that I have ever heard of. I have never myself heard of anyone who had phalloplasty after vaginoplasty. You’d have to look around for a surgeon who would agree to do it, but as for what results would be like I’m not really sure. That information might be out there, I’m sure you’re not the first person to seek it out but yeah its not something I’ve ever heard much about.

    The regret rate for Bottom surgery varies based on the study and the specific question asked. But overall trends show an extremely low regret rate, typically under 1%. I also dont think its a bad thing that your friends were supportive of you getting surgery. If you feel they pressured you to do it so much that you were doing it to satisfy them that’s a different thing but. People should support their friends.

    It sounds like you had a lot going on in your life at the time, and still do. I’m sorry you’re struggling. I would encourage you to seek professional mental health care. You’re welcome to post about what youre going through here of course, this community is for you as well. I dont want to seem like I’m just dismissing what you’re going through entirely and like professional mental health care would magically solve everything. I know that emotional support comes from other places as well.









  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoADHD@lemmy.worldeye contact
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    Eye contact with strangers is legitimately almost impossible for me. I look at peoples nose or eyebrows usually if that lol. I actually go out of my way not to look at service workers’ faces when I can manage it. I’ll look at my phone, look at stuff for sale, look at signs, sometimes literally turn the other way lmao or like fuss with my purse or something 😂 even just the thought of it makes me shudder.

    With like long time friends and family, I wouldnt say i struggle at all. If I know you well then it doesnt bug me at all.

    One thing to bear in mind is that the boundaries between adhd and asd are not super well defined and there is lots of overlap between the two. I am both autistic and have adhd, which isnt uncommon at all.



  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRight?
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    The post isn’t about a man, its about a woman. This is her experience with allowing herself to explore her gender presentation.

    Yes men are allowed to shop in the women’s section. Men can present however they want to, and in a fair and just world would be allowed to do so without repercussions. This post is in the transfeminine community however and really does not concern men.








  • I think you might have it somewhat backwards at the very end there. I also felt tired early on, more drowsy and sleeping longer and stuff. I think for me a big part of it was Spiro.

    But the noticeable sleepiness went away after a few months for me. Like idk if I just on the whole adjusted to feeling that way, or my brain chemistry acclimated to the new hormones. But either way I think it does go away for some people eventually, and I think its very pronounced early on.


  • I put my foot down with all my family. I will loudly cut them off, ignore them if they address me with my deadname, awkwardly interrupt them and insist they change terms. I mean I just generally was as persistent and as annoying as possible. Made it very clear that they were gonna change or I was gone. In the end they got the message and adapted. It took a while though. Anyone who refused to adapt I cut out. I have 0 time or patience for someone who doesnt respect me. I have cut off friends and family who have been a part of my life since I was a young child because they wouldnt respect me. I’m not going to lower myself that way.

    You deserve better than that. They dont deserve your respect if they will not respect you.