Please remove the link to that subreddit. That community violates the rules about not reposting bigoted content.

Who are you having your surgery done with? I’m hopeful to get gendered correctly on the phone at least once in my life time lmao

Ouuuu I haven’t tried this brand before. Exfoliation day is always my favorite haha

No stress! 😊

Does this work contain NSFW content? If so please edit the post so the NSFW toggle is checked. Otherwise, glad you found something you enjoyed so much. I like the art style.

Adore the overalls Ada, happy belated TDOV! 🩷 you are without a doubt one of my trans idols. Thank you for all the work you do creating and maintaining Blahaj Zone, and for co-moderating this community with me. 😊

Welcome to the Transfem community and congratulations on getting SRS! 🥰 I hope your recovery goes spectacularly and that you’re handling post-surgical care well! I had SRS over 2 years ago now and the first year of recovery was hard but SO worth it.

Hope youre having a great day! 😊

I’m happy you’ve come to this realization, it must feel nice to understand a bit more about yourselves in this way. This is absolutely a plural positive community. I hope you all feel welcome here. :)

Not to OP, as I think they described.

I am a lesbian and I really have no desire to gatekeep what labels someone uses to describe their sexuality. It’s up to other people to convey their preferred labels to me for the purposes of clear communication. But ultimately it doesn’t really affect me at all.

I think prioritizing the rigidity of definitions is the business of fascists. Words are not sacred. We should be the end all be all for the labels we use for our gender and sexuality, no one else should get to decide them for us.

If the term bi-lesbian has meaning to you, that’s alright. I’m glad you’ve found a label that feels right to you.

You are correct haha. I’m actually just starting injections this week after taking oral HRT for the past decade. My ADHD brain got my words mixed up lol

You dont get to “alternative take” transfeminine experiences about our bodies and the feelings we have about them.

Do you normally celebrate when a cisgender woman tells you she has something wrong with her body such that she doesn’t get periods anymore? Oh, so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this condition, but thank god you dont get periods right?

Nah, you wouldnt. And if you would then maybe youre just a very insensitive person. Periods suck no doubt and yet when women dont get them, barring being pregnant, its often a sign that something is wrong. Irregularities aside, cause having them on a monthly schedule is far from universal.

Many transfeminine people experience intense dysphoria over their inability of conceiving and delivering children. Its a debilitating life long struggle that we each find our own peace with. Periods are a routine part of having a reproductive system that is capable of conceiving and delivering children. They are controlled/influenced by balances of hormones in the body. Many transfeminine people take feminizing hormones, the same ones that influence the menstrual cycle. Some transfeminine people report experiencing similar symptoms, especially often when taking hormones via injection which introduces a hormonal cycle.

I didnt get a chance to read your previous comment before it was deleted but I can surmise what you said. This is a space for transfeminine people first and I will absolutely not tolerate the gatekeeping of our experiences in this manner. Please read all the rules in the side bar. Be mindful of what you’re saying and keep an open mind.

Ironically doesn’t mention progesterone.

I mean, yeah. It goes far beyond just Britain and France though. They want you to forget about the military dictatorships they upheld in Spain and South Korea too. They also want you to forget that the fascist Empire of Japan killed far more people during world war 2 than any other nation, and by most counts actually killed more people by themselves than was killed in the European theater entirely. They slaughtered entire nations.

And then you can talk about the American actions that ended the pacific war. The atrocities committed by both America and Japan on occupied nations. It’s a mess. Both of those states committed a littany of horrific acts of violence on millions of people. There is no good side or bad side. Only the side that surrendered.

History is this way for the most part. It’s deeply unsatisfying. But the lie was that there are any good wars to begin with. We only regard the holocaust as so unique because of the incidental details of how it was carried out. The rounding up, the trains, the gas chambers, the whole industry of it. But it was not all that unique an event in truth. In the late 19th and early 20th century the Armenian genocide came about in a similar manner and functioned in a similar way. There are many similarities in genocide. The holocaust exists as an archetypal series of events mostly because it was documented by the modern super powers of the world. We remember it because they want us to. They dont want us to remember the Nakba or the atrocities carried out by the military dictatorships they upheld across the world.

Just chiming in as a mod to let you know that you are welcome in the community. If transfeminine is a term that you feel associated with or that bears meaning for you then you are welcome here. :) no matter what gender you were assigned at birth.

That being said, I worry a lot about some of the language youre using for yourself here and throughout this thread. Do you feel like you get the chance to engage in femininity much? Do you feel a connection to your own womanhood? How often do you feel like you get to nurture that connection, like engage in activities that make you feel feminine in a positive way? Hormones are absolutely a crucial part of the equation, but self care is a huge part as well. It’s often neglected.

I also will point you away from terms like “natural woman”. Not because I dont understand what youre trying to say, but to reinforce that being a woman isn’t predicated on having a certain body or appearing a certain way or even having certain hormones. Its also extremely concerning and gross that your father would make comments about you that way, whatever his intentions with them may be. I’m sorry you experienced that.

Youll find a lot of folks here who understand what its like to compare themselves to other women around them and feel inadequate and outcasts. You’re in a good place.

I’m sorry you’ve had this experience sis. Take things one day at a time. You deserve kindness and acceptance. I hope youre able to find an environment conducive to both those things.

This comment unintentionally makes you sound very jaded lol do you not believe in true love? Wild

You said “I feel like China wouldn’t give out free food.” in the context of food banks. I made no claims about America. I made no claims about anything other than your statement “I feel like China wouldnt give out free food.” I was frustrated because you are making a feelings based statement about verifiable factual information that is accessible online.

You go to great lengths in this comment to say that China has had issues with citizens not having enough food, which makes sense, why else would they make food banks if no one needed the food???

I also stated exactly how recent these developments are in my previous comment. These are ongoing changes based on the literature I found and read on the subject. Nowhere in my comment did I suggest that no one in China is dealing with nutritional problems and nowhere did I suggest that China was doing everything in its power to solve those problems.

I only responded to your feelings based statement with verifiable information I was easily able to find online. You said something that suggested that there are no food relief programs in China, that suggestion was wrong. I clarified it for you when you refused to clarify it yourself. I am entirely uninterested in engaging with you on any other point here. Frankly a lot of your language betrays a very strong emotional bias in this discussion and I do not think you are interested in a legitimate discussion about food relief problems and existing programs in China.

As a side note it’s so typical for people in any discussion about China to just label random people propagandists. Yes for sure I’m a propagandist on a social media forum that sees less throughput than an average Facebook group. Tankies call me western interference and American liberals say I’m a paid propagandist. Imagine that there could be any nuance in discussing a nation comprising over a billion people, crazy I know right.