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  • Potatisen@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•I have a hard time making friends. Anyone else? Any tips?
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    4 months ago

    No, pretty easy to make friends. Closing in middle age, a bunch of variety of people in different age groups.

    Don’t know what advice would be real or helpful to you but whenever you feel like it’s not worth it, don’t pursue it. Whoever you randomly encounter that you like, keep hanging close to them. Make sure you’re someone who makes things happen, don’t just be invited to stuff. It takes effort at first but you shouldn’t feel exhausted. If that happens (over and over, not once) you’re not with your people. Make sure you have boundaries and demands, not in their faces but for yourself. Invite people to things you’d wanna do and if they don’t like it that’s ok, if they put you down for it, fuck 'em.

    Something I randomly picked up along the way is the lifeguard motto (or whatever it’s called,ni don’t know…) you have to save yourself before you can save anyone else, it’s an analogy, ok? Make sure YOU have fun first and then you can accurately see how other people behave and feel.