Welcome to the 20th Century.

Group/session/live bassist of over 30+ years as well as having been a studio songwriter that’s worked with orchestras.

The fact that it’s an apartment.

To the Wilder by Woodkid.

RIP. This never should have happened.

Oh I’m not surprised, I’m just disappointed with the amount of people that have such a polarized ideology. It’s “all this” or “all that”. I feel bad for future generations of people to have to experience such a nuance-less world, and I’m glad I won’t have to be around to see it.

I can tell he’s MAGA by the diaper.

Do you accuse Germany in its entirety of being nazis in the 1940’s? Were there no innocent people? Did the Jews support hitler?

What about Russia? Is every Russian citizen in total support of the genocide in Ukraine?

No. The US did not vote for this. A portion of the population of the US are fascists traitors to democracy, THEY voted for this. So stop with the ignorant blanket statements and learn how to have a nuanced understanding of the world you live in.

They’re all above the law. That’s how. Democracy and law and order are gone.

My best tool in coping with grief, as a neurodivergent that has had a lifetime of difficulty in dealing with/understanding loss- has been in the acceptance that I was never going to avoid this.

What I mean is, this was something that was going to happen eventually. They could not have outrun it, they could not have “healthed” their way around it. It WILL happen. And accepting this goes a long way to help to resolve the constant “what could I have done differently” part.

What does this have to do with nightmares? I’m getting to that.

Basically, Grief comes in two flavors;

There’s the “selfish” part, which is the idea that YOU won’t ever get to be with them again- and how it hurts that YOU will now forever have a massive hole in YOUR life that get once filled, that they will never have any new interactions with YOU

And then there’s the “selfless” part, which is sadness and empathy for THEIR pain, and the worry that THEY were suffering, that THEY will never have any new reactions with you.

When these two things mix together- from my experience, the selfish one is always the loudest. It’s the one that drives the knives into my heat.

… and it’s the one that brings the nightmares.

And nightmares oftentimes are a subconscious manifestation of guilt.

Once you come to terms with the fact that this was something that was always going to happen, it gets easier to work through the pain and come to a place of peace. Just know that the love you had for her remains untouched and timeless.

The nightmares will eventually cease, and her all of your memories of her will bring warmth and comfort.

Just hang in there and try and be good to yourself through this.

❤️

Back at ya!

(I haven’t even had coffee yet)

This actually make be laugh out loud! Thanks! I need this.

Who’s we?

Why those nazi terrorists aren’t being denied service everywhere they go is beyond me.

Are you purposefully missing the point in favor of grandstanding, or did you seriously not understand the comparison for what it was?

The crime doesn’t have to equate to ha e the same effect. Someone should have probably explained this to you by now.

When I said, “It’s like….” I didn’t mean “it’s identical to…” Understanding nuance goes a long way in these cases.

It’s like how I can’t stand to watch Kevin Spacey movies after we all found out about who he is.

Does it mean he’s no longer a talented actor? No. Does it make his movies suck? No. Does it taint everything he ever did and now seeing him reminds you of how shitty he is as a person?

a Resounding and emphatic- YES.

Yeah. This makes me really dislike Fallout now.

No. Just…. No.

It’s so hard knowing that one day, they will go where we cannot follow. As much as we think we’re prepared, we never are. But it’s always helped me in the past to just simply accept that this was never going to be avoidable.

~ Godspeed to Matilda, and I hope your heart mends in as much time as it may need.

❤️