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  • So, there are quite a few flaws with your position.

    Firstly, for some reason, you’re putting the lens on trans people, and not cis people. Cis society does far more to encourage and sustain gender norms than trans people ever will, simply because there are so many more cis people. If you are genuinely concerned about the harms of gendered roles and how they sustain gender inequality, you should be more worried about the source of those behaviours, and not trans people.

    Secondly, if your concerns are about the harms of gender norms, then you should probably acknowledge that trans people are more harshly judged and punished by those norms than cis people are. Trans people have their gender denied to them if they don’t perform their gender sufficiently for society. They get misgendered, they get their rights taken away, they get denied access to bathrooms. And to top it off, trans people are also punished for performing their gender roles, and that punishment, again, often takes the form of denying trans people their identity. “If you were really a woman, you wouldn’t need to act so feminine to show it”

    Thirdly, the premise that “transitioned people are doing their best to fulfill the roles and stereotypes assigned to their desired gender” is incorrect. Or rather, it’s as correct and incorrect as it is about cis people. Some trans people adhere to gender norms. Some don’t. But again, the difference is, trans people get punished more often and more strongly by those norms, whichever side of the fence they fall on. Your post here is an example of that imbalance, because you are blaming some of the biggest targets of societal inequality for that inequality, despite their complete lack of power and influence

    There is no “two sides” here. Enforced gender norms hurt everyone, but they impact trans people more. The idea that there is “two sides” is an example of that. Blaming the victims for their own mistreatment













  • The PS5 lets me play Gran Turismo with VR. and turn by using the gyro function on the controller, effectively mimicking a dedicated steering wheel by turning the controller itself rather than stick steering. I could use a wheel, but without a dedicated space to keep the wheel, setting it up and packing it down is just too much of an issue. Gyro steering gives me much of the same control as a wheel does, but without the hassle.

    So gyro steering and VR together was a game changer for me. They were so amazing that I can’t play racing games any other way now…

    But VR on the PS5 is basically dead in the water, so hardly any games support it, and gyro steering is basically unheard of in most racing games. So it’s pretty much Gran Turismo…

    In theory it’s technically possible to use the PS VR headset on my PC, and configure gyro steering, but so far, the combination of getting them all working and configured correctly AND finding a game that supports it all has defeated me…





  • When I was 19/20 (decades ago) I moved to the city to go to University. One of my housemates came out as trans many years later, and a few years before me, but while we were in the house, both of us were closeted and in denial.

    He and I used to sit on the front deck of the house, playing cards and talking in to the night. I often wonder what would have happened in both of our lives if at any point, we had have got to talking about gender, and felt comfortable coming out to each other (and ourselves) way back then.

    But, we didn’t have that conversation then… We both still found our way though. You will too :)