Ironically, it was pretty much the opposite of my experience. My diagnosis was the first time I’ve ever felt fundamentally broken in a way that can’t be fixed, because I’d spent my life believing that if I got serious about it, I could do the things. It made me realise that it doesn’t matter how serious I get, it’s not going away.
But with time, even though that’s still true, the scale to which I was catastrophying it was over blown.
In the case of ADHD at least, it comes with a lifetime of being told that you’re not trying hard enough, that you could do so much more if you just applied yourself, that it’s your fault that you’re distracted etc. And after a lifetime of internalising those sorts of comments, many folk find relief in knowing that actually, there’s a reason for all of it, and it’s not just that they’re lazy.
Immich can search by star rating, but you need to enable the feature as it’s not enabled by default. Go to Account Settings / Features / Star Rating.
After that, it appears in your search options/filters
My kid was 11 when I came out, so I’d already gone down the path of being a parent. I always knew I wanted kids though. But the second I could drop the “dad” title, I did. Before I transitioned, I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t celebrate it or connect with it either. It was just a word. But once I started to accept myself, it got more and more uncomfortable.
Ironically, after I came out to everyone, I didn’t connect with “mum” anymore than I used to connect with “dad”. It was a better fit than dad ever was, but I never felt a strong connection to it.
These days, my kid is 20, and it’s pretty much all in the past. They call me Ada :)
How do they expect people who are suspected of having ADHD to do all this paperwork
They don’t…
Adult ADHD is something the system would rather not think about or acknowledge. So there are barriers in the way towards formal diagnosis.
I don’t need the instances (we host pretty much the same ones), but I’ll be joining a lot of those communities!
It most likely won’t have VR support, which means I won’t even bother…
Seems like you can’t download a image without getting it on a terrible quality anymore.
I’m a little confused as to what you mean by this?
I find the things all the time, so I’m definately missing a lot. That’s not really what I’m talking about though.
Which makes your question “Why do a specific subset of criminal folk, that I’ve defined as looking and acting in a specific fashion, look and act in a similar fashion?”
I found that for me, they help me stay on task once I’m on task, but they don’t really help me start the tasks I can’t start.
I mean, that is how I recommend linux distros to people :)
We can make our decentralised network more popular by centralising it feels like an own goal…
The vast majority of folk here are ex Reddit users. I predate the great Reddit exodus, but even so, I came to lemmy after leaving Reddit, because I wanted something to scratch that itch.
No way. Transphobia is not welcome on any instance I run for example. And that isn’t something that a user should be able to change for themselves. That’s a scenario where you would pick a difference instance
I dislike this for a similar reason, tbh. If someone gets banned, they should have to start over. Not get to instantly recreate and refederate all their content from a different instance.
A ban on transferable ID would follow the ID.
Yep, that would pretty much be the ideal scenario :)
It’s a good idea, but still not an alternative to instance level blocking.
The downside is that if you’re new to the fediverse, you have no way of knowing whose lists you should follow. So there needs to be some sort of instance/client level opt in recommendation to make it visible/useful to new users.
Beyond that though, on an instance like blahaj, it would be largely irrelevant, because there is no scenario where I let transphobes federate to the instance, whether or not individuals have the ability to block them from a subscription list.
That’s not a universal want. Trans people and other vulnerable, targeted minorities face a real cost in having to play whack a mole with bigots. Sure, you can block them as they appear, but by that point, you’ve already seen their hate. And it means every trans person has to see and block that content. After which, the bigot just comes back with a new account, and does another round.
The blahaj instances offer aggressive, pre-emptive blocking of bigots and transphobes, at the instance level, with the goal of giving our users an experience of social media that isn’t shaped by hate.
Of course, not all trans folk want that, and some absolutely do want the power to choose for themselves who gets blocked and are willing to face the hate in order to retain that ability. But that’s the other power of the fediverse, because there are instances that cater to that approach as well.
tl;dr - Granular user control of blocking/federation is good, but it’s not “better” than instance level blocking and defederation.
Do you want/need medication? If so, an official diagnosis will help. If not, it’s probably not worth it, unless it’s going to put you at ease.
In my case, official diagnosis really fucked me up for a while, as I could no longer deny the things I’d spent a lifetime denying/ignoring/making excuses for. It made me feel broken in a way that can’t ever be fixed.
Eventually, I got over that, as I realised I and everyone else is “broken” in a thousand little ways, and I was placing way too much emphasis on one aspect. But, still, it took me a while to get to that point.
Given that I don’t really use ADHD meds (adult ADHD is very gatekept), I’m not sure formal diagnosis has done much to help me. But aside from the initial burst dam of negative feelings, it hasn’t done much to hurt me either.