That would be cool!

you can’t join Signal there. I don’t know whether it’s due to sanctions or if the government is blocking 2FA SMS messages. In either case, it is impossible to join without a phone number confirmation.

What do you mean? You need a phone number to join Signal in any country.

I doubt I can successfully persuade 100+ people to migrate to signal just because of my political crusade.

Don’t know till you try! And if you’re playing the long game, you don’t need to convince 100+ people – the more individuals that join, the easier it will become to convince everyone else to make the switch too.

(oh btw “We are in X country which is not in N eyes” is just marketing)

Why do you say this? There are real data-sharing agreements between the Eyes.

Doesn’t even need some complicated backdoors or anything it just needs to find an OPSEC slip-up

This already happened with kolektiva, unfortunately, but from what I hear they’ve since strengthened their security.

The UI is fucking awful and way too complex, so it’s difficult to get anything done. I’ve tried two different instances and found them both to be unusable.

It’s a shame because Friendica is way more powerful than most Fediverse platforms – they leverage way more of ActivityHub’s potential, such as a system for calendars + events. But the UI needs to get sorted out before it’s ready for mass adoption.

I don’t agree? Even in big cities, I’ve often seen marketplace posts from people with mutual friends, so I could easily verify their trustworthiness. In other scenarios I can at least check to see if their posting history and/or profile seems legit or if there are any red flags. Having more data helps people decide whether to trust someone, but Craigslist doesn’t allow for that.

At least when I used Craigslist, there was no social network element to it, so it was difficult to determine the trustworthiness of any given poster.

For that reason, I don’t want a Fediverse clone of Craigslist – I want an existing Fediverse platform to add a marketplace. I will not use anonymous marketplaces.

Yes, because that is a completely different word.

*exacerbated

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Really not a reasonable take. Social media is great for discovering new things, people, and groups of interest. Sure, you can do that outside of social media too, but in a much slower and more limited way.

Also, lots of housebound disabled people use social media for their main source of socializing.

Yes, loads. It’s very useful for non-anonymous groups + events.

Do you not suggest people who are having trauma responses to every hand gesture that mimics a pinch?

I do agree that it’s good for them to get help if they can, so long as there is room for them having reasons not to get help; and room for them to try other approaches to getting help (such as hanging around people who treat them well); and room for them to get help but not improve.

I think if you make the claim that men have human limitations and can’t help but to retaliate or instigate, you need to hold that claim for women as well.

I agree, and I do hold that claim for women. Where I draw a hard line is creating cultural excuses and encouragement for retaliation and instigation, which I believe you have done by saying it’s fine for women to intentionally instigate men to cause insult. That is no longer treating their reactions as unfortunate trauma responses; it is actively justifying and supporting their actions.

I don’t expect women to be civil, but also don’t think society should excuse their incivility. The same is true of men.

All this to say, from where I am standing the traumatized men are still a head here.

I’m not living their lives, and am not aware of all the media around it, so I can’t say for sure. What I can say for sure is that I strongly oppose politics that try to excuse harming groups just because they’re less harmed than other groups. It worsens tension and just makes society shittier for everyone involved.

But maybe I am missing a better option. If you have a suggestion, please make it.

I think we should not excuse or encourage people intentionally harming other people. If they harm other people inevitably due to their trauma, then that is regrettable but unavoidable. Rather, we should focus on creating uplifting spaces where people of all genders are brought together across divides to focus on common goals and interests. This helps humanize the other and reduce social tension.

Any man who thinks that a pinching motion is unquestionably making fun of them for having a small penis with our out confirmation, needs to get help.

“Get help” is not so simple, and is a patronizing, individualist thing to say to people who are having trauma responses to bodyshaming. People should set their own personal boundaries with antisocial people, and society at large should address the root cause by creating systems that disincentivize bodyshaming.

If a large enough group of men are being antisocial because of a pinching motion. I think it’s fine for feminists to make the pinching motion intentionally to cause insult.

And I think it’s fine for men to then bodyshame women in turn. But – oh wait – making excuses for bodyshaming doesn’t actually improve anything. It just increases tension and resentment.

For women to have to just deal with the antisocial behavior and ignore it is not acceptable.

There are more choices than just these two.

This is a stupid distinction to make. There is no speech that doesn’t affect people materially.

“Free speech” is a morally neutral thing. Most leftists don’t go on about “free speech” because it’s not a value we hold. We value tolerance of people of different races, genders, sexualities, and so on. The issue is not speech in general – it’s the content of speech that matters. “Free speech” sidesteps the issue of what is actually being said.

That saying is total bullshit. I’ve seen people say it for years, only to one day turn coats and reveal that they supported the falsehoods all along.

Sunlight helps scum find other scum.