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  • I don’t think so, I’m not trying to do port forwarding or anything like that, I just want the secondary router to be treated like a regular client by the ISP router (that only sends traffic to the VPN). Thanks for the rec though, if I can’t get the native client working I’ll give Gluetun a shot.

    EDIT: I added some rules for UDP ports 1194 and 5060 to the ISP router just in case there was some back traffic that wasn’t getting back to the client, restarted the server and same result, Host Unreachable :(






  • It does something similar, in that you can replicate servers and have one act as a failover for another, but I think you’d need a lot of extra code to sync the primary game host with the failover hosts, and more to make sure all the clients detect a failed host and all gracefully switch to the same failover host, and probably a hundred other things I’m not thinking of. If I were going to build something like this I probably would look to kubernetes as a foundation but there would be a lot of customization on top of that.




  • I’ve job hopped a medium amount. It’s extremely common. The red flags you’re seeing are most likely indicators of serious problems, and you should trust your intuitions about them. Especially the thing about everyone being overworked jumps out at me. That kind of problem is systemic, and unless the new company leaders are honest about it being a problem and are taking steps to fix it (for example, hiring more people) you won’t be able to fix it as a low level employee and it can burn you out if you try. On the other hand, one month is not a lot of time to get familiar with a new workplace and understand the dynamics. Are there upsides that counterbalance the downsides? Can you find ways to mitigate or improve the situation at your new job? How much power do you feel like you have with your team to change the problems you see, and is this job worth the effort that that will take? Since you’re on a short clock, you won’t be able to get all the information you need to make an informed decision, so this is partly going to come down to your gut, which is scary. And no one on the internet is going to be able to make the decision better than you, for better or for worse.

    Something else to consider: counteroffers are sometimes a trap. If your employer knows you are actively looking to leave, they will often begin preparing to replace you on their own, before you can make a move. Deciding whether this is a realistic possibility comes down to how much you trust your manager friend, how much you trust the other powers that be at your old company, and whether or not your old company can resolve the issues that led you to leave in the first place. Because if you go back to your old job and it’s the same old job, you will probably still want to leave at some point, and now your manager knows it.

    Good luck. that’s a tight spot, and I hope you navigate it and land somewhere you feel comfortable ❤️


  • I love this idea. As others have said, a distributed game server would be a really tall order, and AFAIK there’s not really anything already made that does what you’re describing. But you could have a setup where one server hosts the game and syncs the game state with the other servers in the network, and if one server fails the network decides which failover server to connect to, all the clients connect to that server and continue playing on the new host. But it would be a gargantuan task to implement something like that.






  • A practical addendum to that last point: I am eternally grateful that I am too old to have had to deal with the current landscape of app-based dating, so I am definitely commenting on something out of my experience, but I would advise trying to meet people in real life and make non-romantic friends, rather than “trying to date”. Book clubs, Ultimate frisbee leagues, activism groups, etc. I met my partner doing community theater. I think if you want to find someone you can be friends with as well as partners, you have to try being just friends first. And it doesn’t always progress beyond that, and sometimes that sucks like a bastard. But I still think it’s better than the alternative methods I’ve seen.


  • Who’s going to be doing this railroading? It’s going to be up to you and whoever you decide to have a relationship with to decide what your roles in the relationship will be. When I started getting serious with my partner (now cohabitating over a decade and going strong), we both thought we were cishet little ex-christians. But we were buddies from the start, and that hasn’t changed even when we started to question our gender identities. For all I know, it may have been the fact that we were in a stable, loving relationship for the first time in both our lives that made it safe enough to start exploring that aspect of ourselves. I know for us it took (is taking…) a while. I loved them when they thought they were a woman, I love them now as their NB self, and if they discover more about their gender identity I’ll love them then. We’re still, and will hopefully always be, partners and best buds.

    So if you want to try being in a relationship with a girl, find a girl you like, and love her.



  • I agree. I think with a robust enough proposal, there are a lot of people with power who would be willing to get on board. Some people though… they’ve shown that they’re willing to kill huge numbers of people to maintain and expand their power, and I don’t know that that kind of powermonger can be dealt with gracefully. And I think an internet-native global democratic movement would have to be started by people with internet access, and one of its goals would have to be providing, to the best of its ability, internet access to everyone.


  • Genuinely, I think the “other” in this case is the extinction of the human species. It’s very scary to me that there are people like Vladimir Putin and Donald Trump are in charge of nuclear arsenals. Do I think they are going to start a nuclear war? At this point the best I can do is “hopefully not 🤞”. But the longer we roll the nuclear armageddon dice, the better our chances that we’ll eventually wipe ourselves out. And the predicament that Ukraine finds itself in currently is proof that no nation with nukes should ever give them up as long as there’s a real threat of invasion by another nation. And as technology advances and we find more efficient ways of harnessing huge amounts of energy, that arms race will only escalate. I think the only long-term solution is to find a way for all of us to disarm and find a stable way to prevent rearming, or in other words, world peace.