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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • No, I think they disagree. Or at least, I don’t mind treating them as such.

    From sudoer:

    Basically what they are saying is just praying > praying + smoking > just smoking.

    This is the basis of the entire argument. What I see them doing is hyperfixating on an alleged flaw as a rhetorical tactic to defeat you.

    I want to be clear: the point being made by the A and B versions of the smoker’s question is… obvious. It’s framing. Framing is a very well understood concept.

    When I challenge people on grounds like these, I appear friendly, I make it explicitly known that I agree with the broader point, I offer alternatives that would make the point better, I refrain from damaging the rhetorical momentum (that is, we shouldn’t be bickering with each other because, to an audience, we should be a united front), and, I dunno, a fifth thing I’m sure I’ll come up with later.

    If sudoer doesn’t disagree with you, they are still acting in opposition to you, which is 1) inconsiderate, and 2) demonstrates very poor social skills.




  • I’m just asking out of curiosity: why do you think you care so much about the negative comments?

    I am one of those people that shrug it off, and if I were to try to rationalize my emotional armor, I’d say that the places these matters of taste and disagreement come from, like psychologically, are often not you’re own fault and wouldn’t really be fixable even if you tried.

    But, I wonder if that might be missing the mark. The futility of trying to appease people who are unappeasable might actually have nothing to do with it.