I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.
abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.
Not the person you replied to, but I did. She’s been trying to get me back ever since, despite living with her new boyfriend. He’s as abusive as she is but she needs him for his car so I keep telling her she’s met her perfect match and I’m not coming between them lol
Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.
However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.
my daughter saw her kicking me while I was in the floor, it was recorded (audio only), police said it wasn’t enough evidence, despite my daughter’s testimony.
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I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.
abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.
That’s painful to read. Hope you are able to untangle yourself from that mess.
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been there. yes.
Did you manage to get out?
I did - almost 10 years ago. Still think about it all the time
Not the person you replied to, but I did. She’s been trying to get me back ever since, despite living with her new boyfriend. He’s as abusive as she is but she needs him for his car so I keep telling her she’s met her perfect match and I’m not coming between them lol
Yo are you still in aforementioned relationship hell?
no, she still is a nightmare because kids and custody battles, but I’m not in a much healthy poly thing.
Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.
However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.
My saving grace was that the last time she hit me, it was on camera. Video evidence goes a long way toward forcing the hand of the police.
my daughter saw her kicking me while I was in the floor, it was recorded (audio only), police said it wasn’t enough evidence, despite my daughter’s testimony.
That’s fucked up