I’m a butch transbian. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my butch identity, and how my experiences with butchness overlaps and maybe differs in some areas to my non-transfemme butch siblings. For example:
- We’ve likely grown up with very different bodies and genitals, and that has impacted our relationship to our butchness
- Our struggle with presenting butch in a way that doesn’t get us misgendered or give us dysphoria
- Dealing with the pressure from outside transfemme circles and inside to present more feminine
- Feeling like a fraud in lesbian spaces, because I feel like I’m dressing like a “man”, despite knowing that butch identity is a whole separate thing.
- Fearing exclusion from cis lesbians, what if they think im a cis dude creeping around?
- The lack of representation for butchness in transfemmininty
- How do other butch transfemmes feel about femminine clothing?
- How do we feel about compliments? Beautiful vs handsome?
- Feeling tension between wanting to present more feminine in some ways to “escape” the masculinity I was imprisoned by growing up.
I would love to hear about any thoughts and experiences you’ve got.
What about the word “butch” in your view is exclusive to people with uterus’s? Because doesn’t that mean that trans women (by this definition) can only feel good in certain clothing? Is butchness defined entirely by people with uterus’s enjoying men’s clothing?
This. Butches are basically the reverse of femboys, who can be cis guys or trans guys: it doesn’t matter which, they just need to be guys who like feminine clothing.
(There are also trans men who consider themselves butches, and trans women who consider themselves femboys, but that seems out-of-scope).
@strawberry_enjoyer42 @PurpleFanatic ok, yes, got it.
There was still a wrong connection in my head.
Hope I dod not triggered you. Sorry.
No worries, your fine. I just can’t help but put in my two cents when it comest to anything semantics-related.