I have a friend who lives on the West coast of the US who refers to me as “buddy” a lot, and I don’t mention it, but it gives me the ick (she knew me pre-transition). I think she just uses it like a gender-neutral word for anyone (the way “dude” and “bro” ca be used sometimes), but I’m triggered, lol 😅
In public / with people who never knew me before transition, people will often refer to me and whoever I’m with (they’re usually women) as “ladies” (ironically my sister-in-law hates how often she is called “ladies” when she’s around me, lol).
On the phone or individually people often refer to me as “dear”. In the South, I got a lot more “sweetie”, “honey”, and even “sweet girl” and “good girl”.
What have your experiences been like (before, during, and after transition)?
i dont get at all
maybe because my region culture
but sometimes “девушка” (young women)
funny that i never get called a boy men last year
i remember child said “тётя” (aunt) but him mother said “это дядя” and he said “тётя” again, so cute, im think child saying what they feel and doesnt look to clotches and every mm of skull
Thanks for sharing, erin!
Context for others: “это дядя” would mean “(that) is uncle”.
I once lines to an androgyn character in a book and asked my daughter (maybe 5 or 6yo at that time), she said “they wear a dress, so they must be a girl. Boys don’t wear dresses!” But she was open minded when I pointed out her prejudice.