Like autistic people get to be autistic. That’s a word, and it has meaning. Someone can be autistic because it’s a type of person (spectrumy type). In my opinion, ADHD sucks as an identifying term. It’s 3 letters, one repeated. It means nothing as it is spelled and can’t be owned as an identity because they’re letters, not a word. “I’m adhudd.” The initials include “disorder” in it. That sucks. Autistic people don’t go around saying, “Hi, I’m austically disordered,” cause that’s not accepting. Is there a term that is smooth and not judgmental for ADHD? Maybe we can take Aspergers since it got dropped, but add the ‘d’ to get “Adspergers”. Nah, that’s stupid af. What about multibrained? I feel multibrained because I act like I’ve got multiple brains running in my head doing their own thing all at the same time, and I bounce around them based on who knows what.

What? Oh, yes…I’ll have the spaghetti bolog-knees. Do you guys have red pepper…crushed red pepper? Yeah, thanks. Cool. I like your name tag. Is that really your name? Samsquatch?..oh! It’s Samuel, but you changed it to Samsquatch! I love Trailer Park Boys. Fuck off, Leahy! Yeah. Sorry. I got excited.

Okay. So…um, is there a descriptive word for ADHD that isn’t ADHD?

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    It is not cool or trendy to be Autistic…

    I know that you probably don’t mean it that way but I do think it is important to see people for who they are.

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    I generally refer to myself as ASD (also has disorder in it) to describe my autistic traits and ADD for my ADHD. Sometimes I use Neuro divergent or ND if I’m feeling lazy.

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      Agreed. It’s like they start looking for confirmation, so they start expecting and noticing every little mistake. Or they don’t see it, and give you unsolicited speeches about how they struggle to focus to and you just need discipline… In fact, you should stop taking your meds

      I just tell people without telling people. “I can’t sit still for too long, I have to walk”, “the music/videos and stim toys help me focus”, “my thought process is weird, I know that sounds unrelated but it makes sense to me”, “I know you’re writing up a list, I need to take notes to process what you’re saying and if I don’t doodle I can’t pay attention to this boring ass meeting

      If you take on the label, they don’t see you as managing your symptoms, they look for the cracks. If you explain your compensation strategies and areas of difficulty, they usually are pretty supportive and will even respect the level of thought you put into it

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        Conversely I’ve met people who were diagnosed as adults and who then blame everything they do on their ADHD - “you know, now everything makes sense about me!”.

        Ditto with Autism, to be fair - you don’t get to excuse being an arsehole just because you’re not neurotypical, Dave.

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          I also deeply dislike the phrase for much of the same reason as the other replies. It’s a phrase that evokes high-functioning TikTokers looking to quirkily stand out from the crowd and in general downplays the reality of many neurodivergent people and their very real, very tangible struggles.

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          it’s such a heckin pupper way to describe one of the biggest challenges i deal with in my life. i’m not grim about my neurodivergence but i’m sure not perky about it either.

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          I can’t speak for hypnicjerk, but I personally dislike the term because it feels too glib.

          I can’t do shit because of executive dysfunction and I forget things all the time, that’s not “spicy”, it’s preventing me from having a life.

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      I hate this, but I use it because “I’m from a neurodivergent family” sounds worse to my ears that “My whole family is some flavor of neurospicy.”

      We have 2 ADHD+anxiety, 1 dual ADHD+Au, and 1 dual ADHD+NVLD.

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      I’m like 95-100% filtered at first to avoid upsetting anyone. Very rarely, I’ll make it to 0% unfiltered with only the most accepting and trustworthy people.

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    We all tried to come up with a nice concise term for ADHD but ended up writing multi page papers instead.

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      I started thinking about it, and thought that adhd kinda looked like a palindrome, which made me think of anagrams and how they’re often used as a reveal in bad mystery plots. So I wrote a program to generate anagrams from an input in rust because I wanted to learn rust and never thought much about the algorithms for generating anagrams before. I then hit some complexities with multiple words as anagrams. I’m currently optimizing the dictionary look up by refreshing my knowledge on searching and sorting algorithms.

      I expect to make more progress on this task tomorrow.

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    I like to call it the “ta da!” because the Spanish acronym is TDAH. Who doesn’t like being able to say “ta da!”?

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      remember back in the early days of windows… like 3.1 era… when windows started, it did that. like “see? i actually booted up!! TA-DA!!”

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      I feeeeeel…I ☝FEELLLLLL☝ (pls don’t get mad at me) like when I tell people ahead of time of my neurodivergence, they take it as me coming up with an excuse to be rude in the future.

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          Everyone has met an asshole that says they’re neurodivergent to get away with purposefully being an asshole. When you go up to them and tell them you’re neurodivergent, look at their eyes. If they squint, what they just heard is that that you’re an asshole.